
Having a good role model on marriage can lead to a successful marriage.
Having a good role model on marriage as a single or married person is important in forming the right view about marriage, and in attracting, retaining, and getting married to the right person.
If as a single person you do not like the marriages you see around you, or the marriage of your parents or that of your siblings/friends is not giving you any hopes of a good marriage, and you're seeing yourself becoming afraid of marriage or loathing marriage that you're considering not getting married at all, please find a godly couple far or near that has a flourishing and good marriage to look at. The Holy Spirit can guide you to a couple if you sincerely ask Him.
It is important you have a good couple with a flourishing marriage to look at if you want to have a good marriage, especially if you're coming from a broken or troubled home. What you see, behold and constantly look at has the power to replicate the same in you.
When the devil whispers into your ears that you'll have a bad marriage like that of your parents or sibling or a close friend, remind him of God's Word that says MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING (Proverbs 18:22). NET Bible says, "The one who finds a wife finds what is enjoyable, and receives a pleasurable gift from the LORD." Marriage is enjoyable. Marriage is pleasurable.
Yes, there are bad and troubled marriages out there, but the sweeter truth is that there are still good marriages too, and yours will be counted among them. Find these good ones and put them before you. Avoid the bad ones because whatever you constantly feed your spirit and soul with, you attract to and into your life; in other words, we usually end up experiencing (inviting into our lives) what we focus our eyes and attention on.
If you focus on bad marriages and keep reading their stories on social media, you may end up hating marriage, not getting married, or getting married and having a bad marriage. But if you focus on good marriages, you'll have the right view about marriage, attract a good person to yourself, and have a good and flourishing marriage.
And as a married person, if you keep watching movies, skits on social media and videos about failed marriages or chaotic marriages, you may end up divorcing your spouse someday soon or having to endure a chaotic marriage. So, watch and censor what you feed your mind and feast your eyes on on social media in the name of entertainment. No video you watch on social media leaves you neutral, it always deposits something in you, either good or bad seed that will bear fruit in the near future.
Therefore, surround yourself with good marriages, good couples, good homes. If you can physically avoid the bad ones, do so, but with wisdom. Be intentional about people you listen to giving advice or counsel on marriage. Be careful about people you go to seeking marital counsel from and who gives you relationship advice. Be very careful about this. Let the Holy Spirit and God's Word (the Bible) be your principal guide and standard on building and sustaining a good marriage.
Marriage was created by God and His wisdom and knowledge is highly needed to build it successfully, and that you find in the Bible.
Shalom🤎
~Precious Victor Akah
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