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  • Writer's picturePrecious Victor Akah



Sex in marriage is an obligation, not a favour nor a kind gesture to your spouse.

So you're not doing your spouse a favour by giving them your body; rather, you're fulfilling your marital obligation.

"The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality - the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out." 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 MSG

When you see sexual intimacy as an act of favour, you'll only do it when you're in the mood, and you wouldn't seek your spouse's consent or agreement to abstain for a spiritual purpose (like prayer and fasting).

But if you understand it's an obligation, you'll do it even when you're not in the mood and to their satisfaction, and you'll seek your spouse's consent to abstain before embarking on a personal spiritual retreat.

"Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting - but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it." 1 Corinthians 7:5-6 MSG

Now, if you're not married, as a child of God, you're not under any obligation to give your body to any man or woman (whether a boyfriend or girlfriend, a fiancée or fiancé) until you've become their legally married spouse.

"The wife’s body does not belong only to her. It also belongs to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong only to him. It also belongs to his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:4

This scripture above is speaking to married couples only, not to unmarried couples. So as long as you're not his legal wife nor her legal husband, you are not obligated in anyway to give your body. Your body does not become theirs until you're legally married.

So, let no one oppress, arm-twist, nor force you to do otherwise. They can twist the scriptures, overstretch grace, attempt to manipulate you with extensive knowledge of scriptures, or try to intimidate or threaten you with spiritual superiority, regardless of what they say or do, DON'T GIVE IN!

Scripture clearly says, "Flee fornication...(1 Corinthians 6:18). It also says in 1 Thessalonians 4:3, "For it is God's will that you should be holy: You must abstain from sexual immorality."


Act on it. Live by it. Let God's Word be the final say in your life.


~Precious Victor Akah


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